I’m a true-blue late bloomer! Every bit and detail of my life was either late or delayed. To name a few, growing-up I finished college late and had my first work later, two years behind my circle only because I enjoyed giving way to helping my siblings while being an event person. I overcame my fear of flying only in my 30s that sadly made me miss out some work-related travel perks. Marriage came to me at age 42 & I had my only son the year after. Unfortunate but happily, I have no choice: I am raising a kid on this day and age.
Bringing up my own kid was a teenage dream coming from a big family of 11 though I was scared if I will be able to handle a normal birth procedure. I remembered vividly putting off school in lieu of taking care of my nieces & nephews. I practically embraced growing up around toddlers & kids as my way of helping my working brothers & sisters. A lot of times sleeping was combined by kids & toddlers jumping on my bed or after feeding, playing and cleaning them up. Most of my earnings I remember were mostly spent with my favorite nephews & nieces buying stuff that will make me endeared especially the newest ones.
Fast forward 2014, after a miscarriage 3 months thereafter I got pregnant then 4th of July of next year I finally became a Mom. Destined made & blessed to be a mom every little thing I learned about motherhood & raising my own was based from how I saw my siblings nurtured theirs and my parent’s upbringing to us. Bits of it was learnings through my friends and stuff I read online on how to bring up a child but still nothing compares when in action.
To be a mom on this day and age is creatively draining and exhausting, for one I need to battle it out constantly taking my son out of mobile phones for Youtube & game apps, television shows not worth watching less of mall arcades but more of parks, playdoughs and visiting bookstores. The first three years was a blast as it was the time, I was just on my own rearing him as my husband was an OFW while getting a long-term Yaya was elusive. Back then I was also on a consultancy work set up, I had all the time to be hands-on to my boy and the pace to experimenting on how I can enjoy to the fullest my mommy role. On my own while all stars are aligned to my kid raising experiment I practically did everything all alone. Religiously enjoyed exposing him to educational toys, reading, counting, drawing & painting materials, training him from bottle to drinking milk on the glass and potty training & taking him off on diapers at age 3. I had him exposed on limited time online & TV while learning songs and puzzle & bridge solving plus church Sunday school occupy most of his time. Don’t get me wrong technology did something great to me from my pregnancy to 3 years, it was relatively my back-up to my being a solo mom & an OFW wife.
Now I’m mommy overjoyed to experiencing the fruits of my labor, my son getting adapted to being dependent on my bedtime reading routine, to pushing us to pray each & every night, hugging and kissing bedtime sweetness, brushing his teeth w/ gusto and saying daily good morning as he wakes up.
This year is turning out to be the most challenging time of my life especially as a Mom & a wife. I started working full-time for an extra-ordinary job, my toddler started schooling which he enjoys learning daily and excitedly. He’s fond of being surrounded by classmates that he loves calling friends instead proof of which as he regularly makes mention 6 of them in his nightly prayer. My OFW husband has returned home from Qatar after three years as I requested him to experience his son outside videophone and see his future here at least for one year. While my 2-year trusted Yaya to my advantage is overdoing her chores of being a help in care taking my boy.
Downside though, now that he’s no longer confined to me and I’m out of the house working daily. Noticeably he’s growth development has doubled thus bringing him up now requires me to diligently find creative ways on how I can occupy his mind & heart with only worthwhile matters. He’s easily distracted by a lot of things. He imitates anything he sees and hear in his circle faster than a speedy train. I am having a hard time controlling his influenced to seeing us holding our mobile phones so he daily tantrums to let him hold his own. He has copied excellently almost all TV commercials, reasoning in all his creative ways when reprimanded on anything. Catching up with his schoolwork and activities are one of the most demanding ones for a newbie Mom like me. Early part of schooling my Yaya loves to help me out answer his assignments until one time checking on his notebook, I found out that they are mostly wrong.
I know things will get more difficult in the coming months and years now that he’s become more independent and self-confident. One thing is definite aside from enjoying the child in me again playing with him daily with God as my source of energy, I will consume all my might to rear a child unusual of the ordinary.